Put Down Your Crown…Let Go Of The Drama
As I traverse this journey of life, I find that there is less time for drama. Perhaps it’s age or the fact that I have come to the point in my life to realize that there is very little time left to deal with pettiness – whether it’s people or things. We tend to let little things build into large mountains when we are not focused on what is important. We tend to let gossip be a distraction when we are not keeping our eyes on the road in front of us.
But let’s be honest with ourselves. If you are finding that there is more drama in your life, the only constant in that equation is you. Are you creating it? Patterns, habits in life do not repeat unless we are seeing a payoff, so what are you getting out of the drama? Maybe it’s the excitement of the gossip or you just love to hear others drama because you feel that you aren’t having enough of your own in your life? Maybe you are seeking a little attention …admit it, you may just be a little bored at the moment and looking for a distraction.
I find many who lament that they are magnet for “drama queens and kings” , will drag on that they always have to listen to others’ catastrophes in life. If this is you, I offer this advice. First, read the above paragraph again and then why not give yourself a window of time when you’ll listen to these folks, then walk away. It’s not lack of compassion or empathy, its self preservation and sanity. Take care of yourself and resist the urge to take the invites to their “pity parties”. Many times people will calm down when others do not validate their complaints and drama. We all want to be there for our family and friends, co-workers who need us to unburden their load and be a voice of reason in their sea of chaos. What we do not want to be is the enabler who is always the doormat to which their dump their drama and keep coming back to unload their problems on our doorstep.
Keep in mind, most drama comes from miscommunication and confusion. We can eliminate it by always saying what we mean and mean what we say. It may be hard to do in the moment but in the long run it saves a lot of heartache for all parties. It lets everyone know you are honest and they in return can be honest with you. No one can hold back with you and drama will cease.
Are you ready to ditch the drama kings and queens in your life? Declare NO MORE DRAMA! Or will you continue to be let drama rule your world?