If there is one creed I live by it is this – I own my mistakes. I don’t sugar coat it. I own it. If didn’t live up to any expectation or obligation, I own it. I admit it hard truth and all. I don’t dance around it and give a song and dance as to why I didn’t complete a project, I admit it. And if there is one thing that drives me nuts – people who do not. Now, I do not live in a fairy tale world where I expect others to live by this creed. In the real world others do not play the same rules. Everyone lives by their own principles – we all have different rules we play by and we have to accept that each of us are different. When someone disappoints us, we have accept it, even if it’s a hard pill to swallow, we must deal with it. Not everyone is going to live to our rules or expectations. The world is not according to our rules.
This discussion circles to the term personal accountability. To be accountable for ones actions is of high importance and great integrity. It speaks to our values and our morals. If we are accountable to ourselves, we then can be accountable to others. How can you trust yourself if you do not live up to the expectations you place upon yourself? How can then expect others to trust you?
Reputations are built on these moments of accountability. Each moment in your day where you can show the world that you live up to your own expectations and achieve your own set of goals and plans, it teaches others that you can be trusted with their expectations and goals within you. You set the table for others to trust you. Even small moments give others the ability to place faith in you. Your choices define you. Even the choices you may think are so small and not consequential are ones that others see that make the difference in whether or not they chose to place their trust in you. And one of the biggest displays of faith is when you make a mistake. We want to see how you handle it. Do you own it or do you lie about it? This is an opportunity to build your reputation. This is a chance for you to shine a light on your own personal accountability. How will you decide to handle it? Do you display honesty in the moment of the mistake or do you cover it up? These are the moments we remember the most and these are the moments that define ourselves to ourselves – we remember how we acted when the mistakes happen more than our success, because mistakes live with us longer.
Will you own it or will you lie your way out of it?