Great Minds Share Ideas, Small Minds Discuss People…Which One Are You?
“If you are not part of the problem or the solution, it’s just gossip “. That statement holds water for those who trade in rumors. Individuals who are hell-bent on sharing their tales out of school to the masses who give them the time of day are a problem to themselves and others. The bible has a great quote about “gossip” Proverbs 11:13 whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered.
Those who spread gossip show their own true character. It is not as damning as the subject of the gossip rather that the person who perpetuates such slander gives you the front row seat to their character.
In business, we all know that reputations are built moment by moment and there are many who wish to tear you down as much as to build you up. Certain people trade in rumors as gospel and when you spot these individuals, it’s best to nip in the bud. Some would argue you shouldn’t give credence to such discussion but I feel you should confront it head on, even if it’s a lie. Your character as a leader is to stand on your values and one of your values should be honesty. When you confront these individuals, you always find out that there is a back-story to their lives. Most are just looking to tear down those whom they feel deserve it and most are only spreading the lies in hopes that they will gain the trust of others. Simply the wrong path – you are less trustworthy when you share a tall tale then when you hold yourself to a higher standard that doesn’t destroy the business or lives of others.
When we are confronted by “gossip” we need to ask is this true?” Rather than base our own opinion on the statements of others, we need to confront ourselves as to our interaction with the intended target. If you have not experienced a negative interaction with the person yourself, why would you put faith in the gossip you receive?
When it comes to rumors there is really no good that comes out the conversation or even entertaining the thoughts that are transferred. Small minds discuss people and great minds are sharing ideas that move themselves and others forward. What gossip is a distraction from what it is important in each of our lives. It’s merely a way for others to waste their time when they could be focused on what matters most to them and shows us that they may need direction in their own life as well. Your time is better spent focused on how you serve others with value rather than serve others with arrows at their back.