Great Minds Share Ideas, Small Minds Discuss People…Which One Are You?
“If you are not part of the problem or the solution, it’s just gossip “. That statement holds water for those who trade in rumors. Individuals who are hell-bent on sharing their tales out of school to the masses who give them the time of day are a problem to themselves and others. The bible has a great quote about “gossip” Proverbs 11:13 whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets, but he who is trustworthy in spirit keeps a thing covered.
Those who spread gossip show their own true character. It is not as damning as the subject of the gossip rather that the person who perpetuates such slander gives you the front row seat to their character.
In business, we all know that reputations are built moment by moment and there are many who wish to tear you down as much as to build you up. Certain people trade in rumors as gospel and when you spot these individuals, it’s best to nip in the bud. Some would argue you shouldn’t give credence to such discussion but I feel you should confront it head on, even if it’s a lie. Your character as a leader is to stand on your values and one of your values should be honesty. When you confront these individuals, you always find out that there is a back-story to their lives. Most are just looking to tear down those whom they feel deserve it and most are only spreading the lies in hopes that they will gain the trust of others. Simply the wrong path – you are less trustworthy when you share a tall tale then when you hold yourself to a higher standard that doesn’t destroy the business or lives of others.
When we are confronted by “gossip” we need to ask is this true?” Rather than base our own opinion on the statements of others, we need to confront ourselves as to our interaction with the intended target. If you have not experienced a negative interaction with the person yourself, why would you put faith in the gossip you receive?
When it comes to rumors there is really no good that comes out the conversation or even entertaining the thoughts that are transferred. Small minds discuss people and great minds are sharing ideas that move themselves and others forward. What gossip is a distraction from what it is important in each of our lives. It’s merely a way for others to waste their time when they could be focused on what matters most to them and shows us that they may need direction in their own life as well. Your time is better spent focused on how you serve others with value rather than serve others with arrows at their back.
Wow, what a post Jen. It’s all about getting the facts from a variety of angles and making your own mind up. Great post
Thanks, Dave. You need to see facts from all sides before you decide. Cheers
A-fricking men! Every time I find myself stuck in a gossipy conversation I run for the woods.
Thanks, Geoff. I too, distance myself from those who trade in rumors. No time for drama. Cheers.
I like the saying, “Beware of the half truth. You may have gotten hold of the wrong end.”
Great post. I like the direct approach to topics like this.
Thanks, Donna. What a perfect saying with regard to rumors. You never know the whole story when it is spread through gossip.
Direct is always the best approach in my book. Cheers.
JENNIFER, great article.
Thank you very much.
Jen, This is an excellent article covering something that is a very real problem in the workplace. Too many people spend their time watching others instead of focusing on their own work. Unfortunately many employees lack the ability to see the bigger picture and “report” or “gossip” based on their own very limited perspectives. Leaders have to do exactly as you said, nip it in the bud and assure that this kind of behavior is frowned upon.
I remember a few years ago I started asking people to explain how the behavior impacts them or their job, before they start wasting time spreading rumors and gossip. I started to use the phrase ” Its not your business” – it seemed harsh at the time, but in essence so much time gets wasted when people spend their time fussing over silly things and gossip.
If the leader steps in and controls this, it creates an equitable environment, and also as you pointed out, avoids the negative atmosphere where people are being slandered, etc.
Its the leader who needs to investigate and validate or clarify the situation for the good of the group, people can not be allowed to walk around saying negative or poorly substantiated claims. Its immature and wrong.
Great post! Thank you!
Thanks, Mila. It is truly amazing how much time is wasted on other people’s drama and leaders have to set the tone early in culture and behavior to nip it. If a leader is spreading rumors or slandering others with malicious talk – it is only natural for their teams to follow suit. I agree with you on the point “none of their business” it may be harsh to some but others is rings true, especially me. Thanks for your comment! Looking forward to your hangout today on G+ as well. Cheers.
while admittedly it is easy to get sucked in by the “drama” and politics… overall I want and need the facts, things that I can use in real life.