You Will Never Please Everyone, So Stop Trying…
You are not going to be liked by everyone. You will have enemies. You will have those who will throw stones at your success or failure. The reality of life is not everyone will be your friend or fan. Why then do so many folks waste their time with trying to please everyone? It is a futile effort. When you get to a stage in life, maturity, you look back at all the times you tried in vain to please everyone and looked for approval for your art, your work, hell… your life from complete strangers who didn’t really matter in the long run. Instead of having regret of those moment, reverse the curse now and stop trying to make everyone like you.
Once you stop trying to please everyone, you find that you have clarity in your purpose. You have a mission to serve those people who value you, to serve your audience and clients who are loyal to your success. You have to clear the decks every so often to ensure you are maximizing your time for these people and projects. If you are off your game and distracted by those who do not serve any other purpose than take you out of the game, you are missing the opportunity to be on task. Put yourself in another’s shoes for a moment. How would you feel if someone you needed was off trying to please someone else who hasn’t been as supportive as you? Clear out the distractions, get rid of the toxic people and time suckers who always there to take you out and focus your attention, your talents where they are needed.
We all fall victim to distractions from time to time; it’s a sign that we need to get back on track. I know of late I’ve been in this boat. I allowed others with ill intentions to take my time and zap my energy. I took the bull by the horns and cut them out of my line of sight. I feel better, the stress is lifted and my energy is back. I know that I will back in form and be able to give myself to those who need me.
Do you try to please others? How do you combat it? Would love to hear your thoughts.